James Elliott
James Elliott
James Elliott
James is a respected global expert and authority in traumatic (physical) injury and the adverse consequences (physical and emotional) that some experience.
I am an author, collaborator, and am privileged to be leading the creation of the world's leading well-being index to realise better terrestrial & extra-terrestrial health outcomes for all.
About
James Elliott
James Elliott
I realised a childhood dream when I was drafted by, and signed a professional baseball contract to play for, the San Diego Padres organisation in 1990. A passionate love for playing a beautiful game at a high level (with teammates who shared the same love and competitive spirit) was carried over into my next chapters of becoming a physiotherapist and a collaborative academic researcher.
James Elliott
I am dedicated to making a positive impact on society and committed to sharing my experience(s) towards fostering and supporting the next generation(s).
(dis)Connected
Now Available
My deeply personal memoir - (dis)Connected - is now available in hard copy at www.rememberpress.com and the e-pub at Amazon.
What if trauma is not destiny?
My deeply personal memoir, '(dis)Connected offers a powerful message for victims/survivors of childhood sexual abuse (CSA). This book is a vital resource for breaking the cycle of inter-generational trauma and shares a path to healing through therapy, journaling, and the transformative Hawaiian spirit of Aloha, emphasising kindness, unity, and harmony. It's an opportunity for advocacy of available support systems.
Impact of Childhood Trauma on Self-Perception and Trust:
Childhood abuse, especially from those entrusted with care and protection, is described as a betrayal of trust and a misuse of power. This can leave individuals feeling confused, unsafe, and deeply traumatised, affecting them from childhood into adult life.
Victims often develop defense mechanisms, such as keeping people at a distance, to avoid being hurt again. This makes it difficult to form genuine trusting connections with anyone, including loved ones, leading to feelings of isolation and emotional absence. The feeling of "someone/anyone... and probably, everyone was between us and the door" becomes pervasive.
Societal Expectations and Barriers to Disclosure:
Society's demands for men to "MAN-UP, get on with it, get over it, don't cry, be macho, be tough, and live and die by the mantra, ‘boys will be boys’" creates immense pressure. This "masculinisation" makes it "next to impossible" for boys to comprehend or express feelings of guilt, shame, or confusion resulting from abuse.
These expectations could also contribute to men being less likely to access medical care or engage in preventative health measures, often masking or downplaying their healthcare issues and having lower mental health literacy.
The fear of judgment ("will you judge me? believe me? see me as less of a man?") and the potential for re-traumatisation are significant barriers to disclosure. As a result, 60% of male survivors may choose to never disclose their abuse.
The Lifelong Journey of Self Discovery and Healing:
Without addressing underlying trauma, external achievements and accolades do not bring fulfillment or pride; they become a "drug of success" that never truly satisfies. The journey of self-discovery often begins with the realization that personal achievements do not alleviate internal despair.
The path to healing involves confronting childhood experiences and seeking professional support. It requires learning to identify and manage distressing emotions, thoughts, and memories.
By acknowledging the past, seeking help/support, and committing to self-care, individuals can improve their lives and, importantly, the lives of, and connections with, their loved ones.
Trauma is not destiny. The journey of recovery and healing from abuse and trauma is possible, it requires significant effort and commitment, both personally and from society, to support victim-survivors.
Contact me @ j.elliottnw@gmail.com to be updated on dates/locations of all book launches (virtual and in-person).
Things People Say
Inspired by a mentor, Dr. Ed Jacobson, who encouraged me to 'word-capture' the many and varied things I was hearing, seeing, feeling along life's pathways...I started to write and enjoyed (no, adored) what...just came to life...quotes…feel good quotes. Sad quotes. Empowering, thoughtful, and inspiring quotes…all of them with the same ‘stop-and-think’ responses.
This ‘book’ of mine is less mine and more the collective ‘their work’, but captured and repackaged in a way that…I hope…is two-fold.
1) an opportunity for you to revisit (maybe even read for the first time…definitely some of them for the first time) these quotes and
2) to lean into my own interpretation of these beautiful words in the context of being a 56 year old man through the lens of a young boy with lived experience…who just wanted to (and finally has) escape(d) the boundaries of childhood abuse.
The older quotes helped me then and the more contemporary quotes continue to support me now. By combining ‘old and new’, they provide a rich tapestry of all the wonderful, weird, inspiring, quirky, out of this world, (dis)Connected things I was hearing and reading…from all sorts of people and a variety of sources. I was listening (continue to do so) and I was writing…capturing all of these little ditties in a word document, titled…
Things People Say
I’ve kept that document ‘open’ and at the ready to include new entries whenever available…or whenever I was listening and moved to capture and secure for later (and frequent) review. The document has grown and continues to grow (still open (and with a pulse) as I write this book), representing a compilation of diverse quotes and anecdotes from a wide range of individuals, including historical figures, academics, entertainers, friends, anonymous sources and just random people I’ve met…on a plane, a train, a bus…or in a pub somewhere across this big (small) world.
For example
I once heard from a publican, Glasgow Jimmy in, umm, errr Glasgow, Scotland (after a fair few pints of lager and more than enough (oufff) single-malts…
"It’s possible to be in the right place at the right time, all the time,
as long as you…take the time"
(See cartoon sketch)
This particular collection offers varied perspectives on human nature, life's challenges, success, teams, leadership, and musical lyrics. Recurring themes include the importance of humility, the pursuit of knowledge, the value of service to others, and the power of individual and collective action…naturally all things that really resonate with me; my persona; my characteristic values. Accordingly, many, if not all, of the quotes I’ve captured are likely painted in my conscious and unconscious bias. Though, they all resonate with me, and I hope you too.
Ultimately, the work serves as a thought-provoking assortment of wisdom and observations on this thing called the (good, bad, and sometimes ugly) human experience…leaning right into
Dirk Gently's Holistic Detective Agency, where the principle that everything in the universe is fundamentally interconnected may just help all of US in the way we view and understand the world, the way we interact with others, and the way we approach problems and conflicts…
(HUGE thanks to Douglas Adams).
Contact me @ j.elliottnw@gmail.com to be updated on dates/locations of all book launches (virtual and in-person).
Things People Say will be published in 2026
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Nancy
A book about…Mum
Nancy Lucille (nee Stark) Elliott’s journey started during a pivotal time in history and her story as we (my siblings and I) share is just full of wisdom and an incredibly high level of individual optimism…an authentic ability to connect with others.
A life well-lived
Her story arises from a unique find…a handwritten letter found by my sister, Patty, after mum passed. It appears mum started to craft this deeply personal memoir around the time she was diagnosed with dementia…almost as if she feared her story might not get told otherwise or even her own determined attempt to thwart off the expected, unfair, and completely brutal, history-erasing cognitive decline.
This 6-page letter…beautifully written in cursive on A4, single-space, front-to-back, showers us with these incredibly intimate glimpses into what mum called...A life well lived.
She gave us 6 pages before putting the pen down.
And, now I'm gonna finish her story.
Contact me @ j.elliottnw@gmail.com to be updated on dates/locations of all book launches (virtual and in-person).